Eye contact

Looking up during the day

When you walk or enter a room, look ahead and take in your surroundings. If your gaze consistently returns to the floor or the phone, use these moments as reminders. The head accompanies the eyes: you see what surrounds you better and your face becomes more available to the people you meet.

Look at the person you are talking to

At the start of an exchange, turn towards the person and look at their face. Return to his eyes when you listen to him, respond to him or ask him a question. You can look elsewhere to think and then reconnect. There is no time limit: try to participate in the exchange and perceive the reactions of your interlocutor.

Let the expression live

Keep the eyelids in their usual position and let the eyebrows, mouth and gaze accompany the conversation. You don't need to open your eyes as wide as possible, furrow your forehead or maintain a squint supposed to make the look more attractive. An interested expression consistent with the situation is easier to maintain than a permanent pose.

Establish the habit in real exchanges

Start with a recurring moment, like greeting someone, ordering a coffee or chatting with a loved one. Choose just one cue: look at the face before speaking. Once contact is established, focus on the conversation. This concrete reminder eliminates the need to monitor every eye movement and gives you daily opportunities to develop an avoidance habit.